Aside from all the irrational things this woman has done the last few months…this one takes the cake. I need advice from you…the world.
She decided to finally go to a doctor on her 8th month of being pregnant….finally. I had asked many many times before, and her procrastination / laziness made this last until the 8th month. The doc is confused on her actual due date because she didn’t go in until her 8th month. He says going by what she says was her last period…first missed period…days of her normal period…and time that has passed…her due date is this Sunday. Going by her measurements…sonogram…and lack of contractions…he says she shows 37 weeks.
We had an appointment yesterday, Friday. He said prior to yesterday that her placenta was showing signs of aging…so that has been a concern. He said we should just keep tabs on it and see what happens. So yesterday when we went in, we took a bag…just in case he decided to do a C-section due to the aging placenta. The doc hooked her up to a baby monitor. (stress test) The heart rate was 137-ish. It stayed very consistant the entire 30 minutes or so. When he came back in the room (10:30am or so), he said "What did you eat for breakfast"? She said "Nothing. We were running late, and I didn’t eat".
He explained that the baby should be going up in heart rate every so often….but the baby was staying very still. He told her to go get something to eat…preferably with a lot of carbs. He instructed us to come back after eating for another test. He said if the baby was still staying at the same rate, and not moving about after eating…he may change his plan of action and do something later in the day "to help things along"…as a hint of doing a C-section.
We left the docs office, and got in the car. I asked where she’d like to eat, and she advised me she would not be eating anything. When I asked why, she said she wanted the baby out that day…not later. She said she was going to go back in the office and lie to the doc, and say that she ate breakfast. When the test showed the same thing the second round…she would get her way, and he would deliver the baby that day.
We got into quite an argument. I told her that it was not good to lie to the doc for that reason. He was a doc because he went to school for many years…knows way more than we do…and needs her to eat for a reason. She then advised me that it was "inconvenient" to have the baby any other day. She shares custody of her other kids with her ex husband, and they were gone for the weekend. She said if she has the baby on Friday, she can be back home by Sunday night to pick up her kids….and have a new baby to show them. If she waits until the baby is ready to come out…it may hit on a wrong day when she would "miss out on seeing her other kids" due to being in a hospital.
She has this huge plan to fool everyone into thinking that the baby is sideways…or is past her due date…or whatever….just to get this baby out ASAP. I know better, because I’ve been to her doc appointments. She has lied about a lot of things lately, and is now trying to fool the doc by lying.
So anyways…we went back for the second stress test. She didn’t eat, but was mad at me so her bp was high. They ran the second test, and the baby jumped to the 170 range (+ or – 5), and was VERY active during the test. The doc said everything looked great…good job on picking a sandwich to eat (lie). Come back next week.
So she is furious at me because I ruined her plan. In our argument, she said she had it planned to be back home on Sunday…but now if the baby comes during the week…she’ll be down for an entire week, and miss out on seeing her other kids. Yes…I know…the difference between Friday afternoon, and Sunday afternoon is 48 hours. If she has the baby on a Tuesday, it’ll take a week…yes…I know. Irrational to say the least.
I see this as being one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard of. I told her you can’t "make" the day of birth. Babies will come when they are ready. If not…we trust the doc to say when a c-section is best. That’s why we trust doctors…not ourselves.
Sooooo…..my question is this. How do I deal with this situation? This isn’t the first irrational argument we’ve had. I just feel like we are on two planets. I’m starting to wonder how she will be when the baby does get here. Will the baby still be "inconvenient"?
Need advise and input from you!! Thank you in advance!!
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